The Baltimore Harbor Master is probably just another nigger who can't even swim and has never been on a boat.
Guiding super cargo ships in/out of port would require lots of maff. So there's that.
My stepson did everything right after a really fucked up childhood/mother. Got the engineering degree, the 6-figure job, bought the house and at 35 sounded just like you.
So he started doing more 'Me Time' on stuff he liked. Camping, hiking, seeing our beautiful nation. And guess what? On a remote hiking trail in NM he met a 32 yr old woman doing the exact same thing. They dated for a year, got married three years ago, and last year blessed us with twin grandbabies.
Never ever give up, anon. God is good and loves us. He will guide us if we let our hearts remain good and true.
Focusing on bettering yourself is extremely attractive to confident, stable women. Be Best.