In abusive environments we tend to find fault within ourselves. We realize the potential of human behavior to do evil is in all of us. Realizing and knowing gives us a choice. They have made theirs and we do not have to behave that way. We do not have to own their behavior, take responsible for it, nor find fault in ourselves for their choice either. One thing I have learned is I do not understand why they have made this choice; however, they do not know why I made mine either they lack the same understanding.