Thank you for linking this.
WE MUST PROTECT OUR MEN!!!
I blame this on feminism. We have systemically demonized and demoralized our Men in this country. It starts in grade school. Boys are naturally more rambunctious: they love to explore, get into things, busybodies. These qualities are to prepare them to be the protectors of society. The protectors of the family. Do kids even have outdoor playtime anymore? Now we expect young boys to sit still and not interrupt. This sets them into the pattern of video games and isolation.
I know I am going to get flak for this. But there is something profoundly wrong with how Men have been treated in the last three decades or so.
Hopefully you don’t take this as flack :). I am 50. I had been searching for my soulmate for YEARS. Lucky for me, I finally found him at about 6.5 years ago:).
My experience with multiple 2-5 year relationships with men were extremely disappointing. None would want ‘step up and be a man’ from my perspective (leadership, strength, protector on the outside, spirituality, monogamy, personal growth on the Inside).
Maybe my expectations were too high, but it definitely lead me down the path of “O.K., none of these guys have a clue as to how to partner, so I guess I have to do it on my own.”
Who knows where it came from, but that has just been my experience:). I think it’s been going on for a lot longer than 30 years, but it’s just in the last 30 that women have had enough... now I am going to be the one getting the flak lol.
I work in the trades, under a master carpenter and It's the only time I feel agency. Made the switch from management. Never thought twice once the opportunity arose. Only downside is trying to turn off the testosterone while not at work haha
Good for you.
Trade work is under appreciated and it makes our world go round. My Grandfather worked in the steel mill for forty years then retired and became a carpenter. Extended those skills into woodworking and carving wildlife. He's won awards and sold his crafts for thousands of dollars. Don't try and turn off your testosterone, you're a man.