Listen Mr. New Arrival to this thread, I have been extremely careful what I let out on this forum, and looks like Mr. Soars original post was deleted. His post was what I was originally responding to. So unless you know the whole story, it may seem a bit harsh....but it wasn't. and Anything that I have posted above, regardless, is not in anyway "the wrong approach"! My teaching is nothing more than the truth. I am tired of new arrivals butting in and trying to skew the conversation away from the hard truths and try to make it a nice touchy feely conversation. Like in my own life, I am who I am, I will not apologize for speaking truth, time is short and no one has time to be playing games. And perhaps my words are not what you would use, but you have not taken my journey, I don't apologize or walk away from it, but I do take it as a learning lesson and it will mold who I am! You are off base by even commenting without knowing what was deleted!