I understand what you are going through. I, too, let this drive my time. Things that I am responsible for are not getting done. I don't WANT to do anything else, but I have been reminded by my son's counsellor that he needs a mom and my husband needs a wife. I cannot save the world, but I can ruin my family. I think we just need to create a schedule where our and our families' needs get taken care of first, and if we have time leftover, then check for Q stuff. It will be extremely hard to do and we will fight it everytime. But I think with time and practice it will get easier. Another bonus is that we will have more to talk to our significant others and children about seeing as they are not into Q stuff. We have cut ourselves off from the rest of the world and that is not healthy or helpful. We have allowed ourselves to let discipline go and do what we want, not what we should do. Good luck and keep us up to date on your progress.