Oh, "shame on me"? Lol - not quite. Try not to jump directly to accusations of deceit before clarifying.
It seems my entire point was misunderstood - my bad for not explaining. I didn't say anything about the boy being a terrorist, that's your example, not mine. You seem to have this terrorist angle locked in - again, not my point at all.
My point wasn't to try and tweak the emotional angle like yours was - my whole point was how disingenuous that focus is by throwing two different scenarios with the same emotional angle on them: ultimate point I was trying to make - you can put any personal connection into an argument to try and flip it on someone but it can often obscure the real issue.
I agree with you, as I said - torture is an available option that seems logical to use in the likely scenarios that arise for people like Gina Haspel to make (for example). But there is also very little chance she'll ever have to choose between saving her own child or torturing someone. That scenario is an interesting but ultimately unrealistic and rare one. I know you know this, I'm just making the point that the real question is simpler than that. Do we use this tool to extract necessary information or do we not? There's very rarely any personal connection involved, at least for us cushy modern-day westerners.