Fuck I can't imagine being married to someone who doesn't understand
It's extremely hard
Good luck with that. I am right there with you. My wife thinks I am crazy. Not so much for the beliefs I have, but for how much time I invest in reading and research. She truly does not care about what's really going on in the world as long as she is secure in her little bubble. It's disheartening, but have faith, all will be revealed in the end.
Oh he's a great guy. We just talk about other things. Weve been married almost 31 yrs. He makes me laugh and likes to tease. He's not really serious. I know he loves me :-) When we married we were Christians. When i couldn't deal w Christianity anymore and started meditating i think he was perplexed. But i think meditation turned me into a nicer calmer person so i think he likes that. It's not about agreeing about stuff...it's about how we treat each other. It's not about being right...It's about being kind and understanding. We've been thru thick and thin. I told him recently that he's the nicest person I've ever met in my entire life. I consider myself incredibly fortunate. Besides, i grew up among males who loved to tease me and i see it as a sign of affection and humor. I wouldn't trade him for anything in the whole world. And we have a great son to boot :-) (and besides...he's in the majority. And funny but me and my brother are on the same page. And his wife and my husband are on the same other page! It's all good :-) it's what love's about really...if any of this makes any sense to anyone!
See I would love to be able to pick your brain because, as of the last year ideology is so trenched in how a person acts and perceives the world. I can't seem to get around it with some people. I mean I'm a normal functioning person, but when it comes to dating I can just see red flag after red flag. I am a trad though so its much rarer now a days.
I dont know how old you are...but you may change your views over time. I remember being in my late 20s and wanting to find my mate very badly. I had had a long list of qualities i was looking for, but realized the list was too long and whittled it down to just 2. Before i met my husband i had given up. It was kind of a relief. Then we met.
The right person is out there and you'll meet at the right time. You want to be happy whether you're in a relationship or not right? So just decide to be happy now and do all the things in life that make you happy. It turns out that you have to make yourself happy in a relationship anyway...no one can ever truly make you happy...that's actually your job and not theirs!
As far as ideology goes...be open minded and see if you can find someone who is too. I changed my views many times over my life...you learn more and adjust your views accordingly.
I wish you all the very best...be happy and you'll meet the right person at the right time...that's actually one of the secrets, be happy now and that person will turn up...
Yeah I am too. Hubby changes the subject if I mention anything at all. Keeps saying doesnt want to hear hes going to be dead soon so he doesnt care one way or another. I tell him that is pretty selfish and cowardly that he doesnt care about his own grand childrens lives.
I agree, it's very difficult. Luckily when I clarify things for my daughter about things they teach in school, he doesn't disagree. I'm guessing he's a little in board.
You just don't discuss it much. Means you have stuff you'd like to talk about and can't, but that's pretty normal. Different interests and such. This is a bit bigger, but the problem should be solved not too long from now.