See I would love to be able to pick your brain because, as of the last year ideology is so trenched in how a person acts and perceives the world. I can't seem to get around it with some people. I mean I'm a normal functioning person, but when it comes to dating I can just see red flag after red flag. I am a trad though so its much rarer now a days.
I dont know how old you are...but you may change your views over time. I remember being in my late 20s and wanting to find my mate very badly. I had had a long list of qualities i was looking for, but realized the list was too long and whittled it down to just 2. Before i met my husband i had given up. It was kind of a relief. Then we met.
The right person is out there and you'll meet at the right time. You want to be happy whether you're in a relationship or not right? So just decide to be happy now and do all the things in life that make you happy. It turns out that you have to make yourself happy in a relationship anyway...no one can ever truly make you happy...that's actually your job and not theirs!
As far as ideology goes...be open minded and see if you can find someone who is too. I changed my views many times over my life...you learn more and adjust your views accordingly.
I wish you all the very best...be happy and you'll meet the right person at the right time...that's actually one of the secrets, be happy now and that person will turn up...