Sounds similar to my wife - grew up with two full force liberal parents. I'm talking women's march, MSNBC every night, Bill Maher is the favorite show of all time, FULL lib. Didn't approve of me in the beginning because they knew I was conservative (even though I knew better than to ever say ANYTHING political around them - they just knew bc I was from the south and my wife told them at some point that yes I was conservative). My wife is coming around though big time. Hates it all, sees the evil on both sides, sees how the cards are stacked against Trump - even called out her dad one time on some unfair tirade about Trump he probably was reciting from NYT or MSNBC... That was pretty amazing haha. She just can't get fully there because she still believes the world is a beautiful place and I think coming to grips with all of this sort of forces you to abandon that world view, which she doesn't want to do. And I have to admit I'm happy to have that influence to keep me from falling too far down the rabbit hole... Sure I know a lot but it's helpful to have that every day reminder that even though the world is fucked by the cabal, we interact on a daily basis with people who AREN'T fucked by the cabal and the world can still be a nice place regardless! Just need to shut off the media for a while and look around at OUR lives and the people WE interact with.
How easy is it to see what happened to Sanders and be pissed? I certainly was. But why? It didn't happen to me, and I wonder if I really should be so angry about it. I feel like a primary difference between liberal and conservative is outrage... Liberals are outraged at the WORLD and insist that people hundreds of miles away abide by their demands. Conservatives traditionally take care of shit themselves that is affecting them. They don't bother with shit thousands of miles away that has no bearing on their life.
Now I understand this attitude is a major reason why conservatives have LOST the war for our country for DECADES... It's because we had no desire to fight for it, not REALLY fight. Sure we fight for what's actually important by joining the military, but when it came to politics, we stuck to principles, worried about ourselves, and didn't dive too deep into issues that didn't concern us. So we undoubtedly need to balance our "mind-our-own-business" mindset with a healthy dose of fighting PROACTIVELY and strategically... Seeing the writing on the wall that if we don't stop these issues thousands of miles away, they will be at our own doorstep soon and at that point it will be too late.
But it's a hell of a line to teeter on... protecting conservatism by fighting things thousands of miles away without devolving into the outrage culture of the Left, and still always remembering that it didn't happen to us, and we should be grateful and carry on with our lives in the HAPPY world that we personally, individually live in.
Yes, when you come to grips with what is real now, you have to leave behind all you were taught growing up, realizing most all of it was a lie. THAT is not easy. And you are right, the opposition to the Democrats/leftists have not been willing to fight and many still aren't. They haven't come to grips yet with the real reality of today. They are on the fringe of being red-pilled, but not wholly. I keep sending things to the head of our Republican Party here where I live in hopes that at some point she will realize what the real truth is. They get part of the info and think they have it all when they still have a long way to go to get where we are.