It isn't that complicated or dismal. You have to control yourself, self discipline. If you can control yourself always, nobody can ever control you and you can control any situation you choose, choose being an operant term. You develop discipline by setting ever greater goals and sticking to it until you accomplish them. As you accomplish your goals you gain the material artifacts of success and mature, quality women start noticing you. Stick to your your standards here, too. Never externalize your security! Do not "do it all for her". Eventually you get to choose the one you think will be the best mother for your children. Loyalty is a character trait. Keep developing yourselves or the relationship may stagnate and the 24/7 marketing BS could insert itself as offering solutions, when they are just frauds.
As a man the only way to win is to win first so you have something to offer, then watch your step.>>13445213