Good day to you mam,
May this old man make a couple of suggestions as to how to get your children under your wings when this and IF the crisis starts?
Your children are young adults, so you cannot "order" them around as if they were 5 years old, right? They can make up their own mind and make their decission. if you force it on them there will be sparks between you and that is not good in this type of situation nor the time for it. instead:
1 - If you cannot see them on regular basis, call them randomly once a week, randomly. Talk normally to them, no politics or anything of the sort, don't open such subjects over the phone. And then, where you are about to finish your call, just remind them, they have a HOME where you are, if they RUN INTO TROUBLE, they know WHERE TO FIND YOU, you will HELP them out if they are in TROUBLE. Don't say it all in one go, just give it a piece of a time, like little drops falling. And end your call by reminding them how much you love them. Do it over and over again as the weeks pass, alway remind them they have a place as a refuge, they have someone whom loves them. This is a seed you are planting in their subcounscious mind. When things go bad, it's going to be among the first things that will come to their minds and they, themselves, will find their way to you, they will COME BACK HOME on their own. Remember, even if little birds learn to fly, one day, they will return to their nest.
2 - if you see them on regular basis, start red pilling them with tiny drops, like the OH my gosh! did you hear that Mueller repo*rt turned out to be a nothing burger? And just leave it to that if they don't ask you to explain it. If they do, explain just a bit further, but don't rush them with the news. And of course, before they depart, always remind them how much you love them and that they've got a HOME to return to and if they run into trouble, they know where to go or who to call ^_~
As for you mam, prepare as if your children will be spending the hard time along side you in your nest, if you can that is. Don't be discouraged. You should be strong for your sake and theirs.
Your sacrifice for your children didn't go to waste = they are your treasure, your most prized accomplishment in life. You should hold your head high. I salute you for being a brave lady and taking good care of her family. My wife did the same as you did. I know from her it was not easy to let go of her carrier as well but instead she did miracles with the kids. Being a mother, a good mother, is the toughest job on earth. And i'm sure that all you've done and given won't go in vain. Put your trust in your kids, they will find their way back to safety and you.
Who knows, maybe one day we might meet or you might see me on tv ^_^ that would be comical. If I ever write books or should I say rewritting history books, I will be honored to have you in my team. But we don't plan on making personal gains, and we decided to donate all the money that might come out of this to the children's cancer hospital in our area. Well, that is if i get to write the books. we will see what the future holds for all of us. Life can catapult you from one place to another sometimes. it's not easy.
God bless you mam. Do take care.