Pacing and leading fren, pacing and leading.
All back of the bus and shit, break bread with the enemy. Reveal to them the truth with-out telling them the truth. You tell them the truth their butt hurts be strong and they hate you. You reveal to them the truth in a casual manner on the side and they will then either realize they need to start wiping their own ass or they can continue playing with their own shit.
Remember how painful it is to be wrong. Don't worry about being right or wrong. Just be best. How to be best? Be correct.