His point is that you are asking the wrong questions based on too many assumptions. Your question can't be answered without reevaluating those assumptions, at which point it becomes a completely different question. If your point of reference is wrong, you'll never get your bearings.
Further, since you haven't asked the actual difficult questions to yourself, you poison the well by giving the impression that the place you've chosen to start is based in fact, and demanding a satisfactory answer to an unsatisfactory question.
Think of the right questions, dig for the right answers. There are no more hands to hold.