I never had this problem even as a single mother and a married mother, I had to work and my parents took care of my firstborn, I met my husband and had another child and stayed home for many years, we got divorced and now my youngest is 18 has never been in daycare but also is on the spectrum. My daughter the oldest is 25 and lives on her own, works and is going for her masters degree. Regardless of my divorce my ex and I are really good friends and care for each other and the kids are on the same page and I believe it does make a huge difference. Same way in my family while I was growning up, had both parents and my grandparents upstairs, so always someone safe to go to be with and to watch over us. It also matters if you know everyone in your neighborhood.
Now where I differ with this is its hard for good people like those members of my family who didn't see the signs of the pedophile in ours, he was my Uncle and he abused his own daughter. Yes he went to jail, had his leg broken and other issues and never was able to see his girls again. I knew something was up when I was 12 and I told my father so he tooke care of it…so I was protected. It was a long time ago but now that I think about it, there were lots of signs of what he was…..