and then the other :
if you say 'oh me, oh my miserable life' . . .
and then you have a litany of complaining that you do about this or that and that or the other things to.
so you are younger, and you've figured it out, and you meet one of this listers of all that goes wrong with them, and no list of solutions.
you meet a neigh and they have a list
I have no laundry soap.
The laundermat near my home is closed for remodeling.
I'm not liking getting wet by a passing summer shower.
I have to buy a new pair of shoes, and these ones have a hole in them.
you meet a 'yes, life is good!' kind of person. The same stuff is happening to them and they also have a list.
I'm going to buy laundry detergent.
going to have a nice new laundermat right near my dwelling.
gosh it was nice to get cool all at once with a Summer Shower, look, see the rainbow!
Later I'm buying new shoes!
by the way I'll have time, meet me at the sidewalk cafe at noon.
and thats it.
and if the complainer asks 'meet me at the sidewalk cafe at noon' most people might be like 'well, no. I'm meeting a friend. We're going to walk to the park and maybe she'll pick up her new shoes.