Move out of that state. There is plenty of work in the rest of the country, and housing, taxes etc are much lower. Just don't go to NY/NJ!
That's easy to say, but we had DCF come to the door and question why my daughter hadn't gotten vaccines for our granddaughter.
Turns out it was because her doctor didn't want to start them because she was undergoing 22 surgeries. But we had to get a letter from the doctor proving it.
Also kids can't go to school, not even private ones without the shots. It's forced on us.