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Medieval Ashkenaz (1096-1348)
OF JEWISH WIVES AND MOTHERS
All Jewish women in medieval Ashkenaz were expected to become wives and mothers. The option of not marrying was almost non-existent in Jewish society, as opposed to the ideal of celibacy that existed in surrounding Christian society. Women were often promised by their fathers or other relatives in early childhood and then were betrothed and married before reaching the age of twelve, which was considered the age of majority. If the woman was not married by age twelve, she had the right to refuse to marry the man chosen by her father or parents (Grossman, Pious, 71–81). However, the sources indicate that few women chose to refuse these matches. Canceling an agreement made by two families was considered unforgivable, since people were afraid that the harm caused to their family’s good name would make future matchmaking very difficult. Couples that married at a young age often lived with the parents of the bride or groom for the first year or two after the marriage. In this way the groom could continue his studies and the couple could be supported at the beginning of their married life.
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