Maried couples should change their behavior as necessary if it is harmful neglectful or abusive to their spouse. They should seek the help of a qualified counselor.

Not fulfilling the basic duties required in marriage, he/she may exhibit behavior that shows they are unwilling or unable to be in a marriage relationship. Remember sexual abuse can also be a problem in some marriages. He/She may be physically abusive or verbally cruel and abusive, whether with harsh words or by neglect, refusing to communicate altogether.

(There may be situations in which one’s mental, physical or spiritual health requires some form of separation or divorce.) When ones spouse has taken the decision out of one's hands by refusing to get counseling over a prolonged period of time, the neglected and abused partner has every Biblical right to protect themselves with divorce.

It might seem to happen suddenly, but in reality, the breakup of a marriage typically occurs over a long period. It may happen by one or both spouses neglecting their relationship. It may happen by one or both taking actions adverse to a successful marriage. Marriage relationships often die the death of a thousand cuts—the result of numerous small problems rather than one major one.

Would it be a sin for the Christian to file for separation or divorce? It can seem so, but in reality the spouse acting in an unbelieving manner though professes to be a believer has already broken the marriage contract. Nothing the Christian can do would change that. When this is the case, which party files for divorce may be a moot point. The Christian is not required to separate or divorce, but it would not be a sin for him to do so in these circumstances.

>Your sitting in Judgement! Legalism is a Pharisee problem. We are saved by mercy and grace, not the letter of the law. Where in the Ten Commandments does it say, "You shall not divorce!"

>How dare you! Telling the Lord our God who is chosen.

You need to go back to your Bible studies & take a good look at the Prophets and their sins ie; David & Bathsheba, Samson the womanizer, Solomon & his 3600 wives, Hosea who was told to marry a whore ect. Were they not chosen of God?

>Go back to your hole Satan the accuser of the chosen.

In the name of Jesus…

Luke 6:41

1. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?

Acts 15:10-11

1. Now, therefore, why are you putting God to the test by placing a yoke on the neck of the disciples that neither our fathers nor we have been able to bear? 11. But we believe that we will be saved through the grace of the Lord Jesus, just as they will."

Matthew 5: 27-33

1. "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' 28. But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

John 1: 16-17

1. And from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace. 17. For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ.

>Raise you one shill…every time i'm here and see you posting your holier than thou BS your gonna see this!

>it's my prerogative to shill the shills… Back at-cha

>if your referring to Ephesians 5:21 or Matthew 5:20 it is refering to a Godly husband and or Wife. If they are not and profess to be Christian and their actions say otherwise. These scriptures do not apply. Read your Greek and use a Strongs Concordance. You hypocrite!