>The Bible is full of fear based control and guilt.
False. The Bible describes a Holy God that is not like you or me or anything else created. If you don't have fear of God, you haven't the first idea of what True Holiness actually is.
It isn't about control. It is realizing the chasm between your "awesomeness" and His Holiness obliterates any comparison you can possibly dream up.
He wants you in His Kingdom. But He hates sin, and those who do the sin. There has to be a reconciliation. There is one provided.
>Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life, but whoever rejects the Son will not see life, for God’s wrath remains on them.