It's not just a day for bbq and gatherings.
Celebrate, more importantly, Support your service members (every day) you enjoy your freedoms.
You have to reach out. Most veterans will not want a pat on the back but they need it, plus more.
What causes them to hide or to commit suicide or to get lost in society?
Do what you can if you were not willing or unable to make the ultimate sacrifice.
There are different roles in this life. How important do you find this one?
Read the forums. Understand. Reach out.