>>11913206 (lb)
you probably won't take me seriously
but i will offer something on the issue of your son's "mental illness"
it may be difficult to find
but look for a therapist in your area (even virtual) who has credentials in:
Choice Theory and Reality Therapy
https://wglasser.com/counselor-directory/
and, while your at it, get this book
Warning: Psychiatry Can Be Hazardous to Your Mental Health Paperback – April 13, 2004
it speaks to this issue about schizophrenia, but other "illnesses" as well
i'm serious, no shill