And You are who?
Queen sacrifices are some of the most confusing and powerful moves if planned and executed very carefully.
There is always a choice. It's just the question if one wants to have the consequences of certain choices.
For instance: If you want to be owned, live somebody elses idea of how your life should be and thereby give up your own command over your own attention, time and efforts, then by all means, choose to participate in such relationship.
Very simple.