Let me explain something……
This is VERY personal, but if you read to the end, you will understand.
26 yrs ago I found me & my 2 very young children in a weird/bad situation. My spouse found their biological mother ( + siblings) & had a life changing identity crisis. Long story short, my spouse drifted sooo far away from reality that I had to leave. I packed my tiny car w/ enough cloths to last 2 weeks & tied a cooler full of food to a bike rack …….I left my parents house at midnight that night & just started driving in the direction that felt right. As I drove, from city to city, I asked the authorities, "Where can I find shelter for me & my children?" In one city the shelter kept us for 2 weeks. I had a license, so I preformed random services for all the shelter staffs "hair & nails" for cash. I saved enough for gas to keep traveling. I pulled out a map of the U.S. and asked my oldest, "Where should we go?" They asked, "Where is it warm?" ……… TEXAS BOUND.
Shortly after, spouseanon came to their senses & moved to Texas.
26 yrs later, despite the pain, the "life lesson" experience is priceless. We wouldn't be where we are today if it weren't for the pain we endured.
(There's so much more, but you get the idea)
'''Sometimes you must walk through the darkness before you see the light.
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Now do you understand Q post "pain"