please please please, don't take this as a slam at you.
Be a leader, not a follower.
Lead yourself and your family to happiness, above ALL else.
Remember that money does not equal happy.
Strength, support and unity in the family is what will make you and them happy, TOGETHER.
Don't follow what you 'think' the world expects of you.
Just BE you. The down deep BEST you.
The rest will come, and you will be happy for the journey there.
Love yourself, love your family.
Everything else is just gravy.
Love you brother anon