all the bad curses you weave into your cringe
are all about you . . . you are their mommy.
they will seek you out.
you are talking to yourself, cursemaker.
in my opinion you are doing guilt mongering. you get to taylor your put down to the specifics of the person.
people spend their own time doing it, and they don't show you.
and it's not your job to pretend to know thier issues and shame them.
while your platitude is perhaps correct in many case, in fact the shame-scold persona pretends it wants to build you up but what it does is it wants to trigger your shame instinct.
the person shows all of these trigger items and knows that these are triggers.
and then shames the viewers .
it's not someone who is trying to build people, it's someone who is tempting them back to their bad habits, about which they are already aware.
and wasting there time.
and presenting the 'shame-scold' 'no one is ever good enough' 'you're never going to make it' persona.
they have a 'well you might as well' flavor to them, don't they.
they put the idea out there.
so I rank you post as 'deflection'