Went to high school with a guy who was so "devoted" to sports, top athlete, president of every club he was in, president of his class bla, bla, bla. The coaches always used him as an example to other athletes..be like this guy.. he's so devoted to his sports, he doesn't even date! He left the little town & went to SF, ended up a millionaire by default, died of aids & willed all his money to some aids foundation out there. Yep, he was gay & acted tough as hell. You just never know.
Anon understands..anon has the same situation. Will say a prayer for you & your family as I pray for mine.