>Last year we suffered several miscarriages…
Anon, I'm no dr but I speak on my experience. One miscarriage, one miscarriage stays with you for a lifetime. It changes your world forever. It's never the same, never. Miscarriage is just a socially polite way of people saying your baby died. It must make people feel a little more comfortable yet still uncomfortable to say miscarriage. It sounds like your wife is drowning in loss of her babies. Let it be for awhile. Lay it down. Let go and let God.
Praying for your wifeanon to recover from her deep sadness & trauma.