I think I get what you mean, not sure submissive is the proper word. That was probably a label created by the enemy to fuel feminism and destroy families.
What I think of when I long for the perfect family, is a situation where Men and Women's roles are well defined and complimentary. The man is able to work one job and have enough to pay all the bills with some leisure money and be able to take vacation with the family twice a year, he's the income provider and performs the strenuous physical duties around the home. The woman takes care of household duties, nurturing and teaching the children, cooking meals, doing laundry, and providing the same for the man that provides for her and the children, willingly.
Their roles compliment and provide for each other and create a strong bond with all the family members.
As you are painfully aware, these traditional roles of man and woman are actively being destroyed. The product of this destruction is disgusting, ugly, and miserable. We end up having butch females with tattoos, feminine soft males, transexuals, and post birth abortions. All of them hating life and not even knowing why.
I hate what has happened to men and women, and the loss of family in this way. It would be good to restore traditional roles as much as possible.