Black Grease. By The Black Angels. One awesome jam.
Ignore her and embrace your own strength from being a man. Do your own thing. Don't demand she emotionally re-join the marriage, consider it over. Move forward without her. It is the only path to sanity at this point. Get a muscle car. Drive it fast. If she changes her tune fine. Women often want what they can't have. Let her believe you have moved on. However if that other *hole has stuck his ck in her, it's over-over. MANY more fish in the sea anon. Get a Harley and you will see what I mean.
Might not be her.