>>1680273 With respect, I think perhaps your line of reasoning is flawed. If I've got it right, it seems the base premise you are postulating infers that the child is defined by their feelings! Check out Jacob in Gen 25:27 - Jacob was content to "Keep house"!
Jacob was the antithesis of Esau, who was a very masculine man! Nevertheless, Jacob grew into and became a "mans man" - working in husbandry for his wife and his wrestling with The Angle all night long!
We (broadly speaking) act on the premise that "whatever it is that we feel, must be right"
"Feeling" don't mean "right"! Rember the hippies; "if it feels good, do it!" or "Do what thou wilt!"
The premise was conceived in the mind of the devil!
Noble character "does" what's right, regardless of how one might feel about it!