If she is your wife, go home and avoid the subject. Time will settle the matter. If by SO, this is just a girlfriend and you may or may not want to spend all your life with, time to go, IMO. Don’t elevate the status of a relationship that is unhealthy. My two cents. I know people like this and they lack boundaries. It is up to you to set them and that’s an exhausting job for something less than sacred. >>1715875

Rethought >>1716206

Doesn’t matter where she got them. Disrespectful people remain disrespectful until and unless they learn boundaries. If she spoke to him like this, it is because she either recognized she was over the line and didn’t care, or she honestly thinks it is okay to tell other people how to think. She’ll never learn until the cost is too high.