The act of discrimination happens when you look at a traffic light. When a stranger walks up to you in the night. When in a fight or flight situation.
Stop ceding territory who is blaming you for having a human action. You have a preference and that preference is thusly. DO NOT APOLOGIZE. Understand? They have used language to get you to act contrary to your wishes based on the perception that you're not progressive enough. YOU NEVER WILL BE. These are facts, and they regard your mind's thought patterns and are therefore a thing you can change. It's ok to feel as you feel.