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I love my girlfriend so much, but I just don't know how to make it work
I've (25F) been with my girlfriend (27F) for over a year now. She's amazing, she's everything that I want in a person and more. When we're good, we play to each others strengths and balance each other out perfectly. She puts all of my ideas into action, she's my biggest number 1 fan, and my favourite thing to do is just anything that involves being with her.
The problem is that we argue so much. She's very sensitive and I try to accommodate for this to avoid arguments, and we've come a long way with it. Thing is, sometimes it just feels like we're talking different languages. Sometimes we just rub each other up the wrong way, sometimes she takes things completely differently to how I meant them, sometimes I don't even know why but she's in a mood with me.
She's a very classic avoidant attachment, and I'm a very classic anxious attachment. Our arguments will end up with her "needing space" and me feeling totally alone and shit. If this was an occasional thing it wouldn't be so bad, but I feel like I'm spending so much time feeling shit and I don't want my life to always be like this. We try to reflect on our communication so much, and yet the issue never seems to go away.
I love her so much, and there are so many great things about her. She's the best person that I've ever met. But I can't deal with feeling like this so often. What can I do?
tl;dr my girlfriend means the absolute world to me but I'm just tired of arguing with her