anons - the attention nudity and porn has recd. here on the board has caused me to consider the question of sex and marraige. i myself have been married for over 30 years. i have come to understand and appreciate the nature of a true long term comittment to another person. yet i have also learned that one cannot obtain true fulfillment or happiness through another person - that only comes from within one's self.
this points to the main problem in most relationships - the idea that another person can and should offer EVERYTHING required for this desirable result - it is simply false - a fanatasy that ends in disappointment or in compromise of what one wants in life - as any objective and thoughtful person can observe. this is not to say that a male/female relationships does not play a major role in life - it certainly does. But that simply does not translate into personal happiness and fulfillment - which again can only be from within.
marraige and family has been the fundamental structure of human society for thousands of years- how has that worked out? has it created peace and contentment and prosperity? or has it created chaos and conflict? of course the answer is it has in large part created both of these things. but the bottom line is the involvement of church and state in male female relations has ROBBED us of our fundamental FREEDOM to do as we choose
so if one were to ask - what is the ideal state of affairs between men and women, what would you say? sex? children? monongamy? property rights? i asked myself this question and here is what i got.
I would first divide the issues into basic categories - then pick and choose just like an a la carte menu. so to get started:
Basic Premise - The idea that male female relations are governed by special rules of morality needs to be abandoned. The idea that somehow male female relations are sanctified by God is the biggest problem we have. It may have been helpful when society was governed by tribes or family blood lines - but now we all see that this structure is a major cabal tool and has caused much evil in the world.
Male-female relations should be governed by the exact same morality that covers ALL human relations. that is "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself" or the proverb "Treat your Neighbor as You Would Have Your Neighbor Treat You" Yes - The Golden Rule is all we need anons.
Two or more consenting adults should be able to choose whatever life they want for themsevles provided their choices do not directly cause harm to anyone else. Totally voluntary come and go as you choose. ALL practical consequences of such relationships would be governed by a standard set of rules/laws as follows:
No marraige. No divorce. Just people choosing what they want. Courts or arbitrators only get involved as a last result.
Children - pretty simple - complete and 100% bulletproof responsibility on both the natural parents - subject to modification by mutual agreement. custody also subject to mutual agreement. if no agreement the matter to be resolved based on all facts and circumstances in the best interest of the child or children. Adoption freely available in the interests of the child.
Sex - Completely up to the parties with NO moral judgments. If they agree to be monogomous fine. If not, equally fine. If there is a violation of the agreement the offended party is free to leave. Or not. If a violation harms a party then strict accountability for all harm caused.
Property - Very simple. Basic premise is anything owned prior to the relation remains. Anything created jointly during the relation is 50-50. But all matters are subject to written agreement by the parties which is stricty enforced if either party ends the relationship for any reason.
Wills, Health Care Directives, Power of Attorney, shared insurances, benefits, income, expenses etc etc all options available to any parties at their own choosing and terminated at will any time. No joint tax returns - mo marraige of child bearing benefits or penalties from the govt. NONE of the governments damn business at all!
When I contemplated this arrangment I realized it would yeild maximum freedom for everyone - while maintaining maximum responsibility for all of ones own choices. What could be better? And to those that believe in the sanctity of marraige I say - God Bless You! Have a church ceremony. Follow the Bible as you see fit - it is 100% up to you. But the STATE is no longer controlling you. And equally important - you are no longer controlling others!
Again, what could be better that FREEDOM?