I was.
But they had no way of knowing it couldn't really work on me.
My mother was told it likely wouldn't get bad until I was in my 30s. They were right, however I'm tougher in some ways to make up for others.
It is possible you wouldn't have direct memories.
Depends on age.
Things come back later, it's very common.
Myself, I think I was holding back and protecting the bastard.
What is a child to know?
Just that you are asking these questions means they likely do not have control over you. That control is an illusion anyway. You're not alone, and you know what to look for.
Trust yourself.
Be safe.
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