>>2001261 lb

For many years I worked representing children caught up in foster care and CPS. Not enough space to go into my thoughts on the system or the various types of placements but after all this time I would definitely consider taking the child to an independent therapist with no connection to the prior placement or organization. I would also advise mom to go gently on making an issue of this or speculating as to the cause. Kids are very easily manipulated, they want to please adults. They often lack the ability to put things into context and false memories are pretty easy to instill. Mom might want to sit down with a therapist, first, and discuss her concerns and get the therapist’s take on dreams, whether there are other stressors going on in the child’s life, developmental milestones that could be impacting her dream life. How they child is doing in school and other relationships is also something to consider as all those things are markers to how well she’s doing, emotionally. After that, mom can make an informed decision as to whether therapy is prudent.

>>2001993

Sorry about your grandfather. I wish my dad were alive to see this, too.

>>2002145

I was answering a question from the last thread where the child had been caught up in the system when the dad told them mom was crazy. That was several years ago and, right now, the child is having nightmares and living with mom.

I understand/recognize the anger so many dads feel when the courts are involved and they lose their kids or rights/time with t(sir kids. I was not one who automatically favored mothers and advocated, in practice, for dads as often as moms. I well remember the slumped shoulders and looks of fear on dads’ faces upon finding out the guardian ad litem assigned to their case was a female. I suspect there were quite a few judges who assigned me to cases where they suspected mom was up to something and they knew Would dig to find out. In fact, some of my grandkids’ dad is their primary caregiver and I am pleased with that.

Before anyone says tits or GTFO, recall the reason for the “rule” before being silly. I am only making this distinction out of consideration for a particular anon as opposed to seeking favors based on my lady parts. I am not going to GTFO and trust me, you don’t want to see my tits. Nor are you worthy 😀

>>2002382

All I can tell you is that a standard comment I made to families was that the courts were a very poor substitute for a working family and the results were seldom as beneficial to the child as what a healthy family could come up with on its own.