>Why do people do this to themselves?
"Fragile self-esteem refers to feelings of self-worth that are uncertain or unstable and based on unrealistically positive self-views that are easily challenged."
Mark 3
24 And if a kingdom be divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand.
25 And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.
26 And if Satan rise up against himself, and be divided, he cannot stand, but hath an end.
27 No man can enter into a strong man's house, and spoil his goods, except he will first bind the strong man; and then he will spoil his house.
Having no shared national identity is like having no borders. A house without walls with a divided family is no house at all.