Here are the top reasons:
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Rising Financial Costs
Dating today feels like paying for a subscription service you don’t even enjoy.
According to LendingTree, the average date in the U.S. costs $91. Multiply that across several dates that lead nowhere, and men start asking, “What’s the point?”
Case Study: Jason, 29, New York, says he spent $500 on dates in one month. By the end, he was ghosted by every woman he went out with. “It felt like I was just funding someone’s free dinners,” he says.
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One-Sided Effort
Men are still expected to plan, pay, pursue, and perform. Women hold the power to say yes—or disappear without explanation.
The result? Men feel like job applicants for affection—competing endlessly while getting little in return.
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Role Confusion
Modern dating is stuck between two worlds.
Women say they want equality, but many still expect traditional treatment.
Men are told to be sensitive, but also strong.
Everyone’s confused, and no one’s happy.
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Lack of Respect
Respect is the foundation of attraction. Without it, love doesn’t last.
A growing number of men report feeling expendable—treated as backup plans or walking wallets rather than valued partners.
FAQ: Aren’t men just bitter?
Not exactly. Many men aren’t angry—they’re pragmatic. If the effort doesn’t match the outcome, they redirect their energy elsewhere.