Let her catch you fapping and she'll never walk in on you again
Suffering is creation of one's own mind
Like I said Anon, suffering is only what you create in your own mind. When I first met wifeanon she was a broken alcoholic blaming her woes on external factors. Once you understand that you and you alone create your reality then you can change it for the better
Completely agree, much easier said than done, took me 7 long years of support and encouragement for wifeanon. But once your father understood what he was creating in his own head was causing suffering, he changed. And good on you and your mother for being there and supporting.