abandon your emotions
learn the culture
they're just words
also, just because you have the patience and the resources to pull off such a feat doesn't mean other people should be forced to have no other option than be overburdened by the likes of the life you live. that's your choice to assume such a burden, and the morons here rallying for other people to be forced in to that life with no way out are explicit monsters who don't deserve a voice here.
Let freedom reign!