9 is balanced by inclusion of all and is complete.
It would depend on what result is intended and what elements are involved.
As Einstein said, "We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."
I would not consider death an option. People have been conditioned to limit their choices. When a person changes their mind (thought processes) they create an opportunity to change their/the world. Depending on the "obstacle" the remedy will vary. But, a key is to change the reaction to the "obstacle". Limited perspective (which is by design and conditioning) can be remedied, it can require time, determination and probably most importantly patience.
Begin by changing your thought process. Small steps first. You are of more value here and now than you can hardly imagine, to everyone.