Here's what you do. Stay off of the internet, go workout, get your wife back. The heavy lifting is done here, focus on your life, anon. It's far more important than being here.
You choked her out? Anon, you need more help than what anyone here can provide. It's never ok to put your hands on a woman, especially the woman you took vows to protect and cherish. Not trying to be a cunt here but you'd be best to turn yourself in or hit up a psych ward. You have some serious soul searching and repentance to do.