welp, Q said they have everything, so either they have these msgs (or something equivalent, showing all the douchebags' and crapweasels' states of mind), or they don't.
done worrying about it.
I figure we've got between now and next spring/summer time frame to see if everything that almost 6k threads have pointed to are real.
my little corner of the world gets openness, positivity and what volunteer work I can do (living in a blue county in a blue state).