>>5049147 (pb)
>But then, I was blinded by the fact that my mom had at least 2 abortions. And it ruined her as a mother. Hard to see when you're that close.
Why do you think she had two abortions?
My mom had one when she was in a LTR (not living with tho) and two forms of BC failed. She worked 3 jobs to keep us two in private school. No health insurance and prev. preg was high risk. She had an EUE at 5 weeks. She said she had a moral obligation to the two children she had and couldn't justify going on welfare etc. She it didn't fuck her up at all. She felt it was the best thing for all of us. She said who knows she could have had a miscarriage anyway as she was about 39ish. She said the only hard part was that she cherished her two kids and knew what it was to birth and nurse them and we talked about it openly so that we could understand these things are never easy to decide.
She is very pro choice but feels heartbeat or at the very least first trimester. Lots of times people don't know BC has failed so even if the morning after had been available she wouldn't have known she needed it. But she also said there is no excuse for women waiting that if you are educated about your body you will know straight off and not delay. I think morning after is useful because many people are irresponsible with using BC, but it really makes her mad that people will kill a full term perfectly healthy baby.
She also said she looked at what they took out and it resembled nothing. But she did say, sorry, but I can't do this. I think people are way too judgemental on this and honestly I would never support a complete ban. Unless there is some sort of welfare reform where the hoodrats don't get paid to breed while people like my mom work their asses off, she would never support a ban. The current system of breed all you want while responsible people like my mom work hard is not only not fair, it's racist as people with strong work ethics will avoid welfare at all costs while mom's taxes went to people who had all the kids they wanted on her dime.