Agree with what your saying about Mormon's. Know some well and they know Q. Not a one had an issue with Q. Seeking the answer's for yourself seems to give them the perspective they needed as to whether or not give value to Q's mission.
Best people I know in friendship and although appearing a bit protective and somewhat stingy at first glance … they will also quietly repay a deed without you even knowing and if they see your in real need pick up the tab or cover your cost until your on better footing without asking you to pay it back.
Subtle strength and very discerning. What appears to most people as being stiff and calculating is actually them assessing if you are capable of carrying yourself through your difficultly and just looking for a handout, or if you have done all that is humanly possible at that point in your life and are geniunely in need.
If they love you…they will take a bullet for you. But you have to earn that love.