More about "Aggressive vs Assertive".
One of the big hurdles here is balancing self with the desire to save the future for people we haven't even met yet.
According to the leftist redefinition of "assertiveness", the only good thing to do is put all others before self.
Anything concern for self is deemed "aggressive" by them because they need to taint the desire to pursue things, with gusto, so that you never advance anywhere.
It's the same with how they try to spin economic divides… so that "for one to be successful, others have to suffer, so therefor anything that causes the betterment of self is at the cost of the suffering of others without exception."
They want it be part of "toxic/problematic masculinity".
But it's okay to have self worth.
Confidence is cockiness to those who only want to bring people down.
Assertiveness (actual assertiveness, not the overly passive bullshit they want you to subscribe to), is only aggression to those who want to hold you back.
Being male is fine. Being female is fine.
Being aggressive is fine as long as it's not violent.
Being assertive is fine as long as it's not a veil for weakness. "Oh uh I'm uh I'm here… too…".
It's okay to put your foot down (assertion) and mean it (aggression).
(There's a difference between "force" and "violence", but that's another conversation.)