Amen
My dad died within 6 months of my older brother and sister putting him in a retirement home that he didn't want to be in. I have yet to forgive them for killing my father. Sadly, my hope is that their kids do the same thing to them some day.
Forgiveness is a process.
They don't even know that I blame them.
What's done is done.
Raking it through the mud won't change anything.
But karma's a bitch.