If you are who I think you are (let me imagine) you like to get someone and then you basically act like you couldn't care less that they have an interest in you.
and your barfight in a dream thing . . . if you have violence in dreams you are working on real life issues in the waking that you block . . .
you block some things about yourself that are obvious to others.
like you do enjoy the bout, you like to wrestle with ideas and with real people . . . and you want it to be a fair fight . . . but at the same time you are hyper paranoid.
and no matter who says 'gosh you are interesting' you're like 'you like me, there must be something wrong with you'
or I don't know you at all and I'm thinking you are someone else entirely . . .