Then flip her over, and do the same with your thumb, insistently.
Finally, properly summed up.
kek… I like where you're headed, but it's not time for toys (yet).
Master the basics, first.
As an old man, with a pretty good track record… I'm gonna take that (both the comment, and the misunderstanding) as a compliment.
Well put. The seeds of this dilemma were cast back when I was young, by those who knew what they were doing.
As a young man, I was forced to disengage, in self defense, but found other ways to seek a purpose (not easy). Re-engaging came with healthy skepticism I have never lost, and it served me well.