If you were intending to make contact with aliens that looked like hairless apes with a several thousand year history of killing one another and not being honest with even those closest to them, what would you do?
Me? I would watch them really closely and find ones that appear to be kind, loving, and honest. They are the members of that species I would first choose to interact with. Kind of like getting a dog. Ya don’t generally pick out the one that will rip your face off, or chew off your toes while you sleep.